Does society believe that gender is a social construct?
The detransitioners in these stories say “yes and no.” They agree that most people—whether cis or trans—already treat gender roles as something we learn rather than something we are born with. “Cis people who’ve never thought about trans stuff think this way too,” notes lumpydumpy22222, “‘Oh I think and do this because I’m a girl,’ a sentiment I’ve heard very often.” source [citation:924ec5bc-0058-4a7a-8386-e458e33157eb]

Yet they warn that this shared insight is not enough. Society still enforces the same old stereotypes, just in new packaging. vsapieldepapel compares gender to money: “It’s completely human-made and irrelevant, yet holds power because we don’t exist in isolation but as a unit in the collective of humanity.” source [citation:df9f1d68-b04e-4186-bfc2-3e86da8739eb]

BuggieFrankie adds that the rules keep shifting: “Every culture, religion, time period and area has their own idea of what gender is, which is why it changes.” source [citation:a2e73dc0-5ffa-4423-b831-1d5f375639bc] The consensus, then, is that gender is indeed a social construct—but one that is still rigidly policed.

Why this matters to you
If you are questioning your identity, these voices offer a hopeful path: you do not have to squeeze yourself into any box—old or new—to be authentic. The real freedom lies in gender non-conformity: letting your personality, clothes, hobbies, and friendships flow without asking “Does this make me a man, a woman, or something else?” Work with a trusted counselor, journal, join supportive communities, and give yourself permission to simply be you. The stereotypes are the problem, not your body or your mind.